Recently, three of my female friends turned down the proposal of responsible and self-achieved young men, not because they are not handsome or with a bad character but because their surnames are difficult to mention. One of them exclaimed: “Hearing his surname alone puts me off and I hate to be called Mrs. of that same name”.
Her response led me to ask 100 women via whatsapp, email and Facebook about their opinions on marrying men with unusually difficult surnames to mention. Their responses have been summarized into the top 50 comments.
When you are done reading, I would love to hear your views by commenting on marrying men with difficult surnames to mention.
1. “I quit with my ex because my entire family couldn’t get it right mentioning his name and I became a laughing stock. Family and friends began teasing me with their own version of the name”, Melisa, USA.
2. “Oh no! I can’t marry a guy with unusually difficult name to pronounce. Can you imagine the drama that will unfold trying to mention his name on our wedding day?” Uche, Nigeria.
3. “I’ll give him two options: change your surname or look for another woman”, Dolly, Canada.
4. “I am attracted to guys with romantic names and I will be proud to be called his Mrs. No marital vacancy for guys with difficult names to mention”, Rita, Cameroon.
5. “Nothing annoys me than mentioning and spelling my name wrongly. I already have a difficult surname to mention and I won’t risk marrying a guy with the worst surname to mention. I’m sorry!” Gina, South Africa.
6. “There are some millionaires and presidents with difficult surnames to mention but their wives are proud to be identified and called as their Mrs. so why not me. Who knows whether I’ll also be a millionaire’s wife or first lady tomorrow”, Tina, Ghana.
7. “Oh yes, I will still marry him. Love is blind so nothing can separate us”, Yvonne, Bulgaria.
8. “The best I can do is to be a friend; nothing less, nothing more but I’ll have to give him a nickname or my own version of the name”, Bimbo, Nigeria.
9. “If men expect women to change their surnames because of marriage, then he must also change his name to suit what I want if only he really wants to marry me”, Yaa, Ghana.
10. “In my family, we all have beautiful names. Marrying a guy with a difficult name is a failure in the first place. Names are very important”, Ama, Ghana.
11. “No way for marriage. I want to hear my guy’s name, feel proud and smile but not to get angry”, Babie, Nigeria.
12. “If I don’t like your name then it simply means I’m beginning to dislike you”, Etornam, Togo.
13. “The last time I tried to mention my little sister’s guy’s name, I nearly bit my tongue. I think that was enough”, Pat, S.A
14. “My dad changed his surname because he could no longer stand the mixed feelings of hearing his name always mistakenly pronounced and written wrongly. Why should I go back to same situation?” Akwele, Ghana.
15. “I wouldn’t mind marrying him if I’m truly in love with him”, Aba, Ghana.
16. “Can you imagine if someone asks you of your name and you went like, umm, let me spell it for you knowing the person will definitely get the spelling wrong”, Vivian, S.A
17. “I haven’t seen any millionaire who has a difficult surname to mention and has remained single. Their wives don’t care about the name; it’s all about love, the money and fame”, Jane, Congo DR.
18. “As for me, it’s all about love. Why not if I love him and he also loves me”, Benita, Cote D’ivoire
19. “My family won’t approve some tribal marriages and it will be very difficult if the guy’s name is that difficult to mention to even worsen the tribal case”, Sana, Burkina Faso
20. “As for me, the least I will do is to marry him but maintain my own surname. I don’t want any embarrassment”, Jolie, USA
21. “Any name that does not motivate you is not worth being called by it so marrying a man with a name that won’t motivate me is not my portion”, Big Gal, Ghana
22. “I cannot stand the dread of correcting people any time they mention it wrong. No easy name to mention, no marriage”, B.B, Ghana.
23. “In my family, we are very much particular about the meaning of names. Unusually difficult name to mention will not be welcomed in my family”, Kate, Canada.
24. “It will not be an easy task spelling my husband’s surname all the time for people when they ask of my name or ask me to spell it for them. I’m sorry, I can’t marry such a man”, Faith, Nigeria.
25. “People with difficult names to mention end up having nicknames all over and people’s own funny version of such names. Hearing those things may break my heart so no marriage”, Barbara, Benny City
26. “If I don’t like your name then I can’t marry you. You know why? Women do not only marry men, we marry their names as well”, Christine, Singapore.
27. “I am a teacher by profession and I know the hell students go through as both teachers and students try to mention those unusually difficult names. Sorry to my secret admirer or any man. No marriage for you”, Mama Lee, Ghana.
28. “No, I won’t marry any man with difficult name to mention. I’m proud of my name and I don’t want to lose my pride for something that will piss me off”, Asana, Ghana.
29. “Anytime people mention my surname wrongly, I pretend it’s not me because it’s annoying sometimes. For me, I want a decent name to replace my already difficult surname but not to worsen it”, Jennie, Nigeria.
30. “I will only marry such a guy if only the name has a very powerful and a good meaning to keep me proud. Nothing will annoy me than a name I cannot mention myself and I will not even know its meaning”, Tilly, Belgium.
31. “Hell no to marry a guy with unusually difficult name. I am a public figure and I can’t stand my name being mentioned wrongly all the time”, Diana, Denmark
32. “Having a difficult name that people struggle to mention is not all about marriage but employers may decide not to call me for any interview because none of my coworkers can mention my name”, Davina, Kenya
33. “Names carry spirits so if his name will get me angry and feel uncomfortable when people mention it wrongly, then I might be developing more anger and uneasiness in life. Anger is also a spirit. No way for marriage”, Dzifa, Ghana.
34. “I guess I will definitely have a problem writing my name when filling forms since I may be stuck with either the right spelling or too long for space provided. You know how long Nigerian names are sometimes”, Bella, Nigeria.
35. “Having an unusual name is nothing. After all, he did not name himself but I will not agree with him if he decides to name all our children with further unusual names”, Janie Jane, USA.
36. “A name gives and changes one’s identity and that is very important to me. If I don’t like your identity then it means I will probably not marry you”, Stone Nash, Kenya.
37. “It is difficult to let go the man of your heart if he has a difficult name to mention. Why should mere names separate us? That is not love” Amina, Ghana.
38. “I do not have any problem with that. All that matters to me is if the name has a bad or derogatory meaning”, Chidenma, Nigeria.
39. “Love knows no bound if indeed both of you are really in love. How about marrying a name you like and later that name is disgraced at national or international level? It is worse than difficult name to mention” Felicia Fynn, Ghana.
40. “Why do we ask of a man’s name when friendship begins? It is for easy identification but not a difficult identification. For now I cannot decide whether I’ll marry such a person or not”, Hanna, Sudan.
41. “The question I will like to ask is how about if I were the one to have an unusually difficult first name to mention which cannot be erased by marriage? I’m pretty sure he will still marry me so why not me also” Ada, Nigeria.
42. “People change their names often and prepare affidavit for that so he has to change his name else It will be difficult”, Legal Girl, Nigeria.
43. “Marriage is all about understanding between both parties. If only he will understand that I will still bear my full name then that will be okay with me”, Oforiwaa, Ghana.
44. “I’ve travelled widely and realized that a name cherished so much in one country may be mouthful for another country to mention. My experience has taught me to accept all people as they are”, Molly, USA.
45. “If you respect someone, then you must respect the name they are being called. It doesn’t matter how it may sound. To me marriage is all about love, understanding and respect for each other”, Counselor Gina, USA.
46. “Sometimes, you just have to shut your ears from the funny criticisms and comment from people and go on to have what you want and that’s what I will do”, Leticia, Ghana.
47. “I have lived a single life close to ten years now and It will not be time to drive away any responsible guy just because he has an usually difficult name to mention”, Wild & Worried Single Girl, Ghana.
48. “I have rejected a very good man before all because of his name but now regretted it looking at where he has reached in life. I won’t repeat this mistake”, Prissy Dizzy, Nigeria.
49. “I have realized that it is rather character that I will be marrying and live with and not only harmless names. Names don’t really matter to me”, Melony, UK.
50. “A romantic and a beautiful name cannot be compared to love and character of the person”, Juan, UK.
Now that you are done reading, kindly tell us your views about choosing a man with an unusually difficult name to mention. Share your experience with us by commenting.
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